No 2009 resolutions for this gal. It’s always seemed a little contrived to come up with a list of things on January 1st that you “resolve” to do.  That’s such a strong word, a serious one. Still, with 52 weeks of possibilities before me, it seems fitting to think of something to do, to improve upon, to experience.

 A columnist in SC’s The State said that she planned to evolve rather than resolve, and I like that way of thinking. It’s rather optimistic to think that one is always in the process of becoming who or what she’s meant to be. We’re never really “done,” at least not while in this earthly life, and hence we can evolve into being kinder, more tolerant, more loving, more accomplished people.  I think it was Abraham Maslow who spoke of us as being human becomings rather than human beings because we’re always in the “becoming” state (or should be).

Another thought I have is to come up with a word to serve as a mantra throughout the year, a word that connotes how I want to act, think, and speak. My friend Connie and I discussed this a week or so ago, and I’m leaning towards peace: peace in my heart, in my home, in my work environment, in all my relationships (especially the most intimate ones), and on Earth. It’s not something I’d just like to have if it works out but rather something that I’m willing to work for. Last year my word was “yes,” yes to life, to love, to opportunity, to differences, to experiences, to Jayne.  I included “to Jayne” because I see numerous women saying yes to everyone else and no to themselves.

So peace it is. Peace is my word for 2009 as I continue saying “yes” to those experiences that will help me evolve into being whatever my genetic endowment and environment allow. That includes being the best MarlaJayne I can be…not the best Susan, Serena, Angela, Mary, or Lauren. Just the best Me.

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